In order to make sure our space is safe for all members we have some basic agreements that we ask are upheld at all times.
Respect for yourself and others
This is a space free from bullying, criticism, mockery, taunting, and verbal self-flagellation. We do not admonish ourselves or others.
Honesty is paramount
We encourage you to be true to yourself and your personal perspective at all times. We don't believe there is "one way" nor do we follow the thought highways. We want you to bring your unique perspective and the only way to do tat is to show up, and be allowed to show up, honestly.
Acceptance and tolerance are fundamental
These principles are severely lacking in our everyday society and it's a global problem. At The Gateway Adelaide, and all our sister organisations, we hold these values close to our hearts. In order for this to be a non-judgemental space, we must all feel safe, accepted, and show tolerance towards all people, beliefs, choices and lifestyles. That does not mean we cannot disagree, but we must be tolerant and accept that people make their own choices.
Integrity at all times
Integrity is defined as living in alignment with your beliefs. Always hold your personal integrity as sacred and live your truth.
Practising this means that we take full responsibility for our own needs and reduce projection and victimhood. There is nothing wrong with expressing frustration, sadness, or loneliness for example, please do take responsibility and right action towards meeting your own needs within these emotional expression.
Avoid rescuing and fixing
These two traits are discouraged in our space as they dis-empower and demotivate. Instead we ask that space be held and we practise active listening when necessary.
Always choose kindness
We have a right to express ourselves, a right to be heard, a right to be called out and to call out unwanted behaviour. We also have a right to express opposing views. All of these things can be done with kindness. If your comment requires a qualifier such as, "don't take this the wrong way" or "this might sound mean but..." then I ask that you rephrase or reconsider what you intend to contribute but questioning your motives and with the internal reflection of, "how can I say this with kindness?" Honesty is never apologetic and can be delivered with the kindest of intention.
If at any stage you are concerned, offended, troubled, unsure, saddened or anything else then please reach out to me either via the Members Chat or phone on 0405 131 250 and we can talk.